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Are you holding a grudge? About?

We all tend to hold grudges. People do or say things that hurt us some of which are hard to forgive AND forget. Personally, yes I do hold grudges. I don’t tend to.

I was watching a video the other day. It was a minister talking to a crowd. He had said

“ people always say forgive and forget. We can forgive, but we can’t forget. We don’t have to forgive them. We forgive ourselves for putting ourselves in those situations or dealing with that person.”

I am holding a grudge. A friend of mine does nothing but lie. He can’t be honest if his life depended on it. I’ve told him many times I do not get mad at the truth. It may hurt, but I won’t be mad. Lies hurt. He’s a good friend but some things he’s said in the past, I’m having a hard time forgiving him.

An example…… he told me to go to hell. Certain things you just don’t say. He was mad at me because I had called him out on a lie. We didn’t talk for months. I calmed down, forgave myself, I’m trying to forgive him. But I can’t forget that. That’s like trying to “unsee” something.